13 Reasons Why: Beyond the Reasons is a mini-documentary that is released on Netflix for each season of the show. Professionals, Cast, Crew and Activists talk about the topics addressed in the show. The third season of it is 18 minutes long. Like the first and second season, it features members of the original 13 Reasons Why cast and crew alongside the new cast and crew talking about the topics in the show. Once again the setting has changed, the cast and crew are sat on a couch in a living room talking to each other about their experiences and the topics, and this time they are not in front of an audience.
The cast and crew of the third season of 13 Reasons Why sit down with professionals to talk about the topics covered in the third season. They talk about recovery, shame, being a survivor, speaking up about assault and change.
Alisha Boe (Jessica Davis) introduces the season this time: "As with every season of our show, Season 3 of 13 Reasons Why was an intense experience for me as an actor, which means it can also be intense for all of you to watch. We've heard from so many of you who have opened up about your own stories, and we are really grateful. We hope you'll join us as we continue that conversation now. If you or someone you know needs help, please go to 13ReasonsWhy.info to find local resources."
(In order of speaking) Devin Druid (Tyler Down), Brandon Flynn (Justin Foley), Dr. Rebecca Hedrick (Psychiatrist at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center), Hayley Tyler (writer and producer), Alisha Boe (Jessica Davis), Bex Taylor-Klaus (Casey Ford) talk about recovery. Devin and Brandon talk about how both their characters, Tyler Down and Justin Foley, chose to speak out about being a survivor of an unwanted sexual experience. Rebecca and Hayley talk about how different people deal with recovery of sexual assault differently, Alisha talks about how Jessica went through the process of claiming her body back from feeling like she was an outsider in her body. Rebecca talks about how patients have come to her and talked about how the show has been very relatable with their own stories and how boys and men seem to benefit from the second and third season knowing that a male sexual assault story has been told. Devin talks about how both Tyler and Justin deal with their experience in different ways, coming from different sides of teen culture in school. Tyler is a very closed off person because of the way he is treated in school, but he managed to dealt with his experience by finding safety in Clay Jensen and Jessica Davis, being apart of the H.O. group with other survivors and Dr. Singh being a person he could trust and talk to. Bex states that Casey believed that sexual assault was a male on female thing; males assaulting females. She comments that Casey's belief is broken when she sees the amount of males who speak out after Jessica's speech in the gymnasium, she becomes more welcoming of Tyler after realizing that he is a survivor and sexual assault can happen to anyone. Rebecca finishes off by saying that survivors will speak out in their own time and shouldn't be rushed into anything as it could make it worse for them. Hayley adds to this saying that survivors feel ashamed but they can get help and reach out.
(In order of speaking) Alex Jones (Founder of "I Am That Girl" & "ProtectHer"), Timothy Granaderos (Montgomery de la Cruz), Seth Stewart (Director of Development and Communications for "1 in 6"), Brian Yorkey (producer and creator) and Tyler Barnhardt (Charlie St. George) talk about shame. Timothy talks about getting into the role of a different Monty as Monty changes and opens up a different part of himself. Seth talks about Monty's behavior being because of his experiences and the culture around him and instead of asking people "Why are you bad?", ask them "What happened to you?". Brian talks about how Monty was a villain in the second season, and that we have to talk about the fact that sexual predators are not born (into being that way), they're made into being the way that they are. Seth also talks about Monty being an example of someone feeling very deep shame that makes him shy and introverted when it comes to his feelings and his sexuality but also very aggressive and angry because he's carrying around such an intense feeling of shame; shame and isolation go hand in hand, evolutionarily, shame makes people isolate the feelings that, if they act on or express, could make them feel ostracized. Unfortunately due to the way the feeling is sometimes processed, your brain could make you feel shame with things that you don't actually need to feel shame with. Timothy talks about how all Monty and other men need is a support system, for people to allow them to be vulnerable, for people to say it's okay for them to talk about their feelings and their sexuality. He comments that it's unfortunate that Winston didn't come into Monty's life earlier because he's the only person who ever opened Monty up and gave him a safe space to be vulnerable and be open about his sexuality. Brian comments that after Monty and Winston have sex Monty tells Winston that he isn't gay and Winston replies only with "That's fine. You can be whoever you want to be." without judgement. Alexis comments on there being a space of vulnerability for Monty from Winston, something Monty was never given growing up so he didn't get to process the things he needed to resulting in who he became before he met Winston. Seth states that research shows that many men aren't given emotional stability or shown the emotional language they can use adding to that they are shown a very entrenched definition of masculinity. Tyler adds that although the show doesn't provide all the answers, it provides itself as a catalyst to open up a conversation and feed knowledge into teenagers brains.
(In order of speaking) Brenda Strong (Nora Walker), Justin Prentice (Bryce Walker), Dr. Rebecca Hedrick, Joy Gorman-Wettels (writer), and Trevor Smith (writer) talk about change. Brenda and Justin talk about Bryce having an emotional breakdown with his mother, while she holds him, both doing it for the first time. Rebecca states that both Bryce and Monty had toxic father figures in their life so they had an unhealthy role model to look up to and when young men have an unhealthy father figure to look up to, they mold into that. Joy puts forward the rhetorical question of whether or not Bryce deserves a chance to apologize, to which she affirms that everyone should have the chance to apologize, but they shouldn't think or demand that it should, would or will be accepted. Bryce tells Jessica that he's not expecting her to accept his apology and Olivia tells Bryce that he will never begin to understand the meaning of "Sorry". Justin comments that he hopes that jock culture and rape culture will change and in seeing Bryce try to change people may actually know that some people in that culture can change and evolve and feel remorse for their actions. Rebecca notes that the court was the only boundary that had ever been placed on him to understand that there are consequences to his actions that he didn't like and he finally started to slowly understand that his actions do have consequences, something he wasn't shown by his parents. Brenda adds that all the characters are finally starting to have and take accountability for their actions, although it feels bad for them it creates an opportunity for them to change.
The introduction to the third season of 13 Reasons Why plays as the outro for the third season of 13 Reasons Why: Beyond the Reasons.
Cast and Crew
Order of Appearance
|“||I think it's so important how survivors choose to stand up, when they choose to stand up, and it's so interesting to have those two different kinds of boys in these two different kinds of pockets of, you know, of the high school jungle, have that shared experience.||”|
|— Brandon Flynn about Tyler and Justin's experience with sexual assault|
|“||Everyone who's been in an experience where they have suffered, they are going to react to it differently, and with sexual assault, it's a very charged situation, and it depends on your own personality and background and your support system, the way that you're going to deal with it and your process.||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick|
|“||You know, we see both the characters of Tyler and Justin Foley kind of work through their experiences in much different ways. They come from two different parts of this teen culture, even though they've been through a lot of the same things. For Tyler, who is very closed off just as a person, I think it was the comfort in finding friends with Clay, with Jessica, and the members of the H.O. group throughout the season, and Dr. Singh being a trustworthy person that he could confide in and talk to, to help get to a point where he's taking control of the experience and his narrative.||”|
|— Devin Druid on how Tyler was able to start telling about his sexual assault|
|“||Last season, you saw her struggle with her body. She felt like a prisoner in her own body. And this year, she takes her power back, and she discovers her sexuality, and it's all in the road of recovery, of claiming your body back||”|
|— Alisha Boe about Jessica reclaiming her power|
|“||I've had a lot of patients that have come up to me and related how this show really told their story, and they were so grateful to have been able to see it. I think one of the benefits of it is that men are getting more comfortable talking about sexual assault, but it's still a very taboo subject for boys and men to discuss their stories about unwanted sexual encounters.||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick about sexual assault on men|
|“||I think it's really important when someone has been assaulted, or has had an unwanted sexual experience, to be able to talk to somebody about it, but if they do it before they're ready, it can cause a lot more problems. And so it's important never to rush somebody to talk about it, not to ask for specific details. Eventually, you know, the hope is that they would feel, at least, in a safe enough environment that they could speak about it.||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick about sexual assault victims speaking up|
|“||You never know what someone else is going through in their lives. You never know what their experience has been, and people may feel ashamed, and they may feel like they can't reach out and get help, but hopefully by seeing these stories and knowing that other people struggle with these same issues, they can reach out, they can talk to somebody about it, and know that they're not alone.||”|
|— Alexis Jones about sexual assault and reaching out|
|“||I think, in preparation for the scene I really tried to understand what it would be like to be alone. I would journal out these situations that Monty was going through, you know?His relationship with his father, his friends, and eventually, you know, even his sexuality. One of the ongoing themes for Monty from the get-go, for me, was that he was alone||”|
|— Timothy Granaderos about preparing for the scene between Monty and his dad|
|“||You know, so much of his behavior is socially, culturally, what a lot of people who've gone through these types of experiences, you know, the family trauma, the abuse, it's what they demonstrate, what they exhibit. And in our work, we talk about trauma-informed care, and one of the essential elements of that is when we look at someone's behavior, we don't ask, "Why are you bad?" We ask, "What happened to you?"||”|
|— Seth Stewart about Monty's behavior|
|“||I learned from 1 in 6 was we don't talk about sexual predators, people who have committed sexual assault, as monsters. Because if they're monsters, they're bigger than we are, and you were talking about empathy dissolves those barriers, and we have to recognize that monsters, for the most part, are not born, they're made. You know? And we keep making them.||”|
|— Brian Yorkey about people who commit sexual assault|
|“||It doesn't mean you're necessarily shy, introverted, you know. You can be aggressive. You can be angry. That doesn't mean that you're not carrying around an intense feeling of shame, and shame goes hand in hand with isolation, you know? There's even speculation that shame, evolutionarily, is an emotion that keeps us from revealing something that will ostracize us from the group. Unfortunately, the way we process that often is that we become ashamed of things that aren't necessarily things we have to be ashamed of.||”|
|— Seth Stewart about people with shame|
|“||I think that the only way to resolve that is to talk about it, is to talk about it with the people around you, try and find someone you can open up to and become vulnerable, and that's why, I think, for Monty, it's pretty tragic that Winston came along when he did, and not earlier, because he's that one person that really opened him up and got him looking at things a little differently.||”|
|— Timothy Granaderos about Monty's shame for his sexuality|
|“||Our work shows that many men are not raised and given emotional language, or encouragement to express themselves. Add to that these very, very entrenched ideas of what masculinity means in terms of strength, and then independence, knowledge, confidence, aggression...||”|
|— Seth Stewart|
|“||We're also trying to tell the stories of teenagers, and tell them truthfully, and so they're going to make wrong choices. And our hope, always, is that you watch that and you go,
"That was the wrong choice."
|— Brian Yorkey about the choices the characters make|
|“||The most important thing is that when someone opens up, no matter how small it is,
that they feel safe, they feel heard, and they feel completely, radically accepted. And what we always tell people is that the best you can ever do is to tell someone, "I hear you. I'm here for you. I care about you." And that really is step number one, because for a lot of people who've gone through a lot of things, they've never even heard that.
|— Seth Stewart about how to react to people opening up|
|“||You know, Bryce and Monty, the father figures in their lives were aggressive, angry men. They taught them that if they're feeling vulnerable, or if they're seeing someone else's vulnerability, you meet that with power and domination. And so that's what they think it is to be a man. I think, in reality, teenage boys are hungry for information. They don't want to grow up and be someone who abuses or harms other people. They want to do the right thing. So I think it's important to have healthy role models, and if it's not your own father, to find out other healthy models.||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick about teenage boys' role models|
|“||Does Bryce deserve the chance to apologize? I think everyone deserves a chance to apologize. No perpetrator should expect that apology's gonna be accepted. (..) It's certainly always up to the survivors of abuse to make the decision whether they want to first of all hear it, and then take it in, and to give them the opportunity, but I think it's important for abusers, when they're actually finally recognizing with some empathy the damage that they've done. I think it's important for them to at least make the attempt, if it's coming from a heartfelt place, to put that out there.||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick about abusers apologizing to victims|
|“||We have to be able to inspire that they are able to change, and give them hope and show them healthier ways to relieve their own suffering that don't manifest as harming themselves or other people||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick on if people can change|
|“||In terms of changing the culture that we live in of rape and sexual assault and the jock culture and all that, there needs to be some semblance of hope that it can change, and I think, in seeing the humanity in Bryce, and in the characters in this show, you go, "Oh, these are people who may actually feel remorse for their actions. They're not just write-off human beings."||”|
|— Justin Prentice about Bryce feeling remorse|
|“||in no way are we excusing or pardoning any of the horrific things that Bryce did, and I think it's important that we say that.||”|
|— Joy Gorman-Wettels about humanizing Bryce|
|“||Many of us would have liked him to go to jail, but it was still a boundary placed for him, and that made him think he wants to change his behavior, and that's the only way that this works. If they make that internal choice. "I don't like how I'm feeling about this," or "I don't like the consequences that have happened to me because of my bad behavior. I want to get better." Then that's the first step, the biggest step, the most important step.||”|
|— Dr. Rebecca Hedrick about Bryce changing after his sentencing|