You Can Tell the Heart of a Man by How He Grieves is the sixth episode of third season of 13 Reasons Why. It is the thirty-second episode of the series overall.

This episode focuses on Tony Padilla and Barry Walker as the main suspects in Bryce Walker's murder.

Synopsis Edit

The police bring in Tony for questioning. At Bryce's funeral, Ani uncovers two new damning secrets.

Plot Edit


Tony Padilla gets taken in for questioning at the police station. Deputy Standall asks him how well he knew Bryce Walker and whether or not he'll be sad because today is Bryce's funeral. Tony says he really didn’t know Bryce well and that he won't be particularly sad because he's suffered "far worse".

At the funeral, Zach Dempsey and Justin Foley aren’t sure how they can grieve their former friend after every awful thing he did and feel guilty that they are sad. Nora Walker, Bryce's Mom, also appears to be conflicted on how to feel. Barry Walker, Bryce's Dad, just uses the funeral as a social opportunity to greet guests, smiling. He appears to feel no real grief for his death, and Clay is suspicious of him, but Ani points out that being a bad father doesn't make him Bryce's murderer.

In a flashback, we see how Barry treated the family. He left Nora and Bryce and immediately bought a house down the street with his new girlfriend. He didn't care about having any continued contact with Bryce or his ex-wife. Bryce even asks him to play golf sometime, to which his dad responds clearly to having no intention of following through.

Bryce breaks into his father’s actual house and messes up the place, leading Barry to have an intense fight with his son. Bryce refuses to pay for any damages, and reminds his father of Caitlin. Caitlin is revealed to be his 12-year-old daughter, Bryce's half-sister, from a secret affair. Nora calms Bryce down and tells him that they have to move on and that they must be done being controlled by Barry.

In another flashback, Tony’s family was taken by ICE (Immigration and Customs Enforcement). He sold his car to Bryce to pay for lawyers to help them, though it wasn’t enough and ultimately his family was deported. Clay is upset that Tony didn’t confide in him, and Tony says it’s because Clay could never understand what he’s going through. Clay realizes it’s true, because his family always has his back and isn’t facing any threat like deportation. He goes home and hugs his Mom and his Dad, before demanding that they make some space in their collection of family photo for photos of Justin, since he's family to them, on the fireplace mantle.

Jessica’s activist group shows up at Bryce's funeral and they stand up in the middle of Nora’s speech to call him a rapist. Barry demands the women are arrested and grabs one of the women to shout in their face. A majority of the people who attended the funeral all go to Mrs. Walkers' house after the funeral.

The cops examine the security footage from the Walker house to look for more clues about Bryce's murder. They find footage of Clay threatening Bryce with a gun, from "Bryce and Chloe" and "The Box of Polaroids", which makes Clay look very guilty.

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Quotes Edit

Bryce was a real competitor on the field. He fought for his team. Always. He was loyal, and he was strong. He was the kind of strong that I always wished that I could be. In a way. I didn't always agree with Bryce. Or what he did. But I wonder sometimes if all we are is the sum of our actions in the end. Or if we're more than that. I want to believe that we're more than that. There was a time where I called Bryce Walker my brother. And there was a time where I didn't. But we're all brothers and sisters. All of us. And whether I like it or not, I am my brother's keeper. So Bryce, I'm sorry, and goodbye.
— Zach's speech at Bryce's funeral
There is a son that only a mother can see. A mother always sees the little boy inside the man. So, there is a Bryce I wish you all had known. He was capable of hurtful things. And he was capable of deep love. He had a soul that wanted to be good. And a heart that didn't always know how. But he was growing and getting better. And there were moments in these last months where I saw not only the little boy but the good, good man he might become.
— Mrs. Walker's speech at Bryce's funeral

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Soundtrack Edit

Song Artist Album Scene
Theme Song: "Oh In This World Of Dread, Carry On" by Eskmo
"Dancing and Blood" Low Double Negative Tony in the interrogation room; everyone arrives at the funeral.
"Oh No!" Scantron Oh No! / I'm Not Surprised Alex fights Tyler at the gym; Tyler knocks him down.
"Sennen" Ride Nowhere Clay and Tony hug; Clay comes home and hugs his parents.
"Remember My Name" Mitski Be the Cowboy End credits.

Original Music Edit

Song Artist Album Scene
"Funeral" Eskmo 13 Reasons Why (Season 3 - Original Series Score) Bryce scolds his grandfather.
"Our 13 Reasons" Eskmo 13 Reasons Why (Season 3 - Original Series Score) Clay sees Tony's car in the Walker's garage.
"Justin" Eskmo 13 Reasons Why (Season 3 - Original Series Score) Justin cries in Jessica's arms.
"Our Families" Eskmo 13 Reasons Why (Season 3 - Original Series Score) Tony and his sister look into the mirror and say goodbye.

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